5 Ways to Be Happier in 2013

Prepare yourself for a slew of news articles about how to do this and that during the new year. Let’s face it, a fresh start (whether it’s literal or figurative) is a welcome way to wipe the slate clean and say, “Ok, I’m choosing to forget the past (or embrace it) and try, try again!”

Resolutions are all good and well if you keep track of them. Sometimes that’s more work than we want to put forward (or than we have the time to put forward). So here are some simple thoughts about making yourself (and maybe even those around you) happier in 2013.

1. Make more of your own fun instead of buying it.

Sure buying new things is fun and thrilling. I love it. It makes me happy. But just as with any addiction, I feel like I need more and more new stuff to feel truly satisfied. I need fashionable outfits. I need pretty furniture. I need a lot of things, right? The truth is, I don’t need any more than I already have. I just WANT things. Encouraging yourself to get by on less can help you focus on what you truly need: more time with those you love, a job that is fulfilling, stronger relationships, etc. Play board games. Go for a hike. Hold hands in silence. Spend time sitting on the floor petting your cats.

Twister

2. Take more pictures.

I have a really bad habit of not taking pictures during events and parties and family get-togethers. Sure I remember having all that fun, but it’s always nice to look back and remember the looks on their faces when grandma cracked that joke or share memories online with others who were there. I always think people look ridiculous taking so many pictures, and then look back and ask myself, “Why didn’t I take more pictures while I was there?!”

Bag Cat

3. Tell people how you feel.

I’m terrible at this. I expect people into read my mind, my voice, my mannerisms, my text messages and decipher how I’m feeling. That’s expecting too much! People aren’t all movie psychologists who can tell by the quiver of your lip or the flit of your eyes if you’re mad or sad or mischievous. Do yourself and the people you’re with a favor and just tell them how you feel. I feel unprepared. I’m a little frustrated. I feel upset. I feel blah. This makes me so happy. People will really appreciate your honesty and feel more comfortable returning the favor.

What a grump

4. Write someone important a letter.

Have you ever gotten a heartfelt letter from someone important to you? Or even just a letter with regular old details about someone’s life at that moment in time? In the age of emails and text messages and Twitter and Facebook, stop and take the time to write someone a letter. Strike up conversation about how your life is, maybe risk a little and get philosophical. I love getting real life (non-bills) mail. Wouldn’t you? Get a pen pal!

Write a Letter

5. Spend more time helping other people/animals.

I have a bleeding heart when it comes to animals, but I’m encouraging you to get out into your community and volunteer! Though you may feel like you’re making just a small difference, it can be a big deal for someone whose life you’re touching. Then they’ll go out and pay it forward!

Sean and Pudge

How do you plan on making 2013 the best year ever?

Re-Thinking Thankfulness and the Pinterest Trap

 

I think I’ve talked a little bit about this before, but I’ve recently found myself in what I like to call the “Pinterest Trap.”

Pinterest is a great place for craft, recipe, and decorating ideas. It’s perfect for inspiration when you want an outfit idea or you want to spruce up a room in your house.

Always on Pinterest

But there comes a point when Pinterest turns on you and makes you envious and greedy. I spent a lot of the weekend on Pinterest. Running 14 miles on Saturday paired with the gloomy weather, meant a lot of time watching movies and browsing the internet—hence, a lot of time on Pinterest.

As the weekend progressed, I found myself getting more and more discontent with what I have—wanting more. I need a house. I need new furniture. I need new clothes. I need this. I need that.

Pin all the things!

I even went as far as going out and buying a bunch of stuff I didn’t need with money I didn’t have just so I could feel like I was cool or stylish or in the know or whatever it was I felt like I needed to be.

Meanwhile, I was being outright rude to Sean. I was mad at him for not getting me the things I thought would make me happier. He was clueless as to why I was so upset because it doesn’t make sense to him.

I was all up in my grumpy mood when one of my favorite bloggers, Peanut Butter Runner, a true yogi, posted about Santosha, or contentment:

“The point being that we’re always waiting for something bigger, better, happier, prettier, more, more, more; when really we need to focus on the moment that we’re in and find contentment and happiness in it.”

Sunshine

This really struck me, as I was right in the thick of greed and lust and gluttony. I needed to find happiness in the things I have like a great apartment, adorable pets, a stable job, a wonderful partner who supports me with every fiber of his being, and a family who backs me up no matter what.

So, today, this lovely new beginning of a Tuesday, I wanted to encourage you, but also encourage myself.

Be positive

Focus on being content today. Focus on what you have, not what you think you’re lacking. Focus on how thankful you are for the people in your life and what they contribute to your now and your future. Focus on how your past has gotten you to this moment, led you to this point in your life, and taught you what you know. Focus on the future and what potential it holds for your success, your love, your life, your relationships, your everything.

Be content in this moment. Stop throughout the day to be consciously aware of your contentedness.

“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” -Thornton Wilder