Introvert v. Extrovert

INTJ – That’s my Myers-Briggs personality type. The first letter, I, indicates that I am an introvert. In fact, on my indication graphic, I was 100% I and 0% E (extrovert). As a general rule, people assume introverts are shy and just want to be alone. I beg to differ, however.

Introverts don’t want to hang out by themselves all the time. Well, maybe some do, but I don’t. For me, being an introvert means being around large groups of highly energetic people doesn’t energize me, but drains me. That doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy it, though. I just need some time to assimilate between large group environments.

Which brings me to the real point of this blog post. I feel so alone at my job. Other than people telling me to do the tasks they’d rather not, no one really engages in conversation. Now, I’m not trying to imply the my co-workers don’t talk to me because they know I’m an introvert. It’s more like they don’t talk to me because we have no common interests.

Still, I miss having stimulating conversations with people in real life. I miss sharing facts and information and learning about people’s lives through talking to them.

Once a salesman came into my office to sell a new website to my boss. My boss was on the phone and for 30 minutes I spewed out tons of words engaging the salesman in conversation. After it was over, I felt so relieved, energized, and just plain happy. I realize he is probably coached in how to engaged with clients, and since I work here, he saw me as a potential key in his success. Nonetheless, it felt great to talk and learn about about experiences with Jeopardy-like quiz bowls, work out information, and good weekend vacation ideas.

What I realize now is that I don’t have any friends here. As a general rule, when I meet new people I tend to gravitate toward those who are much older than I am, which leads to awkward gaps in conversation. But I don’t really care to do what people my age generally find “fun.”

All this rambling is to say that, while Atlanta sure is a big city, it’s been rather hard to find people with common interests. I just want to talk to people!


One thought on “Introvert v. Extrovert

  1. i know exactly where you are coming from! ever since i got home after graduation, there’s been a serious distance between myself and my old friends down here. we’ve grown apart, and i find more and more my Emily is my main and oft times only friend. i’m the same way in seeking out older people as friends as well. i’m not into the same things as those my age either. i’ve always been that way – either hanging out with older or younger, but not often my own age. hang in there! if i was closer, i’d love to hang out and talk! i actually miss having you a couple of doors down to chat with! don’t give up, you’ll find some folks to hang out with. it’ll happen.

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